Ask Annie: Submissive question: "I'm afraid of letting go all the way and letting him take control. Is this normal?"

Okay, well here is the deal: You do NOT have to let go of everything. The smartest submissives realize that they have a lot of control. You get to determine your own comfort zone, your hard limits, your soft limits, and YOU are in control of when to safe-word out. 

His job is to respect all of that and know that if he oversteps, YOU control when the game stops. Once you start to feel that sense of security and he earns your submissive trust (which is different than just relationship trust) you'll find that you are willing to give up more and more control to your Dominant. 

It becomes very comforting to release that control once you have established trust that your Dominant can take the lead and not abuse his position. If you were not nervous about relinquishing control to another, *that* would be abnormal. Your hesitation is quite natural. 

One way you can both establish that trust is by taking very small steps. For instance, does he give you a daily assignment? He should start doing so. It can be something as benign as "Write me a note telling me why you want me to be your Master" or "Mediate for ten minutes today on how you will serve me and our relationship and then text me to confirm that you have completed this assignment." It can be something deeper, "Kneel before me while I watch television and do not interrupt me until I give you permission to speak." Or, "Stand in the corner and remain still until I call you." It could be a daily journal assignment where he has you write down your service to him and your thoughts about him (even the bad thoughts -- we all have those from time to time). When he reads your entry he may wish to have you kneel beside him. 

There are a million little ways to establish trust and get you into the submissive mindset. All of that will build your confidence in HIM and help you learn to serve him.